Three reasons to stop spanking your kids today: No ifs, ands, or buts
#1: SPANKING DOESN’T WORK
Dr. Alan Kazdin, one of the gurus of parenting, stated the following regarding spanking: “There is no need for corporal punishment based on the research. We are not giving up an effective technique. We are saying this is a horrible thing that does not work.” In a nutshell, spanking may stop bad behavior in the moment because kids are afraid of being hit, but it doesn’t work as a long-term solution because it reinforces violence and doesn’t teach or model desirable behavior.
#2: SPANKING CAN INCREASE AGGRESSIVE BEHAVIOR
According to a 2011 study in Child Abuse and Neglect, children who were physically punished were more likely to resort to hitting as a way of resolving conflict with siblings and peers. Additionally, parents who endured spanking during their childhood were more likely to endorse spanking as acceptable and thus, spanked their children. Consequently, their children also accepted spanking as an appropriate way of discipline. And so lives on the intergenerational cycle of aggression and violent behavior.
# 3: SPANKING DOESN’T MAKE YOU FEEL LIKE A GOOD PARENT
Some will argue this point, especially if your child is acting out royally and a good spanking causes her to shape up in a matter of seconds. But really, if you look inside yourself, is that truly the example you want to set for your kids? Spanking and other forms of physical punishment are such slippery slopes… they can become dangerous in a hurry because parents often increase the severity of the punishment if their child continues to be noncompliant.
The truth is this: effective discipline isn’t easy and quick, and even the best, most well-intended parents don’t keep it together all the time. For more in-depth, professional information on alternative, more effective methods of discipline, check out Harmony At Home’s the MYTH OF SPANKING.