Dr. Luisa Bryce
Jul 5, 20131 min
A solution that does, in fact, help me to feel better when life seems to have it out for me, was given to me by a mom I worked with a few years back. The solution, or “trick,” as I call it is Finding the Ugly Beautiful. This involves challenging yourself to think about and focus on the positive, bigger picture when disaster strikes in order to put it into perspective. By focusing on the positive and discounting the negative aspects of the unfortunate event, you’re able to take in what has occurred and see it as less detrimental and life altering. For example, if your car breaks down, instead of focusing on the inconvenience and cost of getting it repaired, think “At least I am fortunate enough to have a car. Some people must walk or take the bus everywhere.” When your child gets the flu, think about how blessed you are it isn’t something more serious, or think about how lucky you are to have a child.
Finding the Ugly Beautiful will take some practice, as it involves turning one’s mind. But it does help. And eventually, you learn to find more beautiful in the ugly without trying so hard and life’s roadblocks become a bit more manageable.
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